Short Hair Don’t Care
Howdy,
For most of last month I decided to put in a weave. Nothing drastic no rapunzelism just a nice straight hair that I hoped looked like mine. There was the process of selection, what length, colour, texture then the sewing in was painful as hell but the end result was super fly :). Walking into work the next day I braced myself for all the comments and sure enough there were comments most positive, even if only on the surface. friends loved it and even my ever critical father had nothing bad to say. It seem the weave was a go. Looking back at the time spent with the weave in I’m a little upset I didn’t think to do a weave chronicles. Everyday something new happened that I could directly attribute to the hair magic.
Male clients who had previously refused to see me or been difficult to see now welcomed me with open doors and dinner invites *pause* I took it in stride and many of my friends who had sworn I always look good with short hair now said ” You know I think I prefer this look…”. One even said ” Oh now I can see the Irish blood”…. really? Most of my male friends LOVED the look but advocated for the short hair as at least that was mine. For awhile I felt super sexy. By week two no one could flip a weave like me. However, slowly but surely something odd started to happen, I began feeling a weird guilt. How so? Well when a secretary would say ” Oh my your hair is so healthy and thick” <— I felt like a fraud, i would smile shyly and avoid saying thank you. I became more and more conscious as to the fact that "this was not my hair"
I kept it in for a whole month and eventually decided to take it out and return to my short cut. In all of this I learned, short hair, long hair, your hair or weave, do what makes you confident and you'll always be sexy. I'm rocking my short hair again and I'm super happy. I'm not going to lie I will miss the weave flips but I'll take feeling confident and sexy over that any day.
Short Hair Dont Care,
Adventures of Mamachel 
Either way babes u still look good!
I love up my weave dem doah
A weave chronicles would have been awesome!!! It would have been a good way to document how you felt and looked from beginning to end (of course with pictures). I can totally relate to the “guilty” feeling when others comment on the state of your “hair” but I’ve learned to pay that no nevermind….I’m gonna say thanks, flip my weave and walk away, all the while laughing to myself! Confidence is key in anything and you should do whatever makes you feel confident! This article has inspired me to draw for my weave again…I’m long overdue (almost a whole year)! Rapunzel, here I come! Thx Chel! š
beauty always comes from within even though i understand what my sistahs go through with “the hair situation.”
i can’t possibly know exactly what women feel, but from a male perspective, i only wish for you to be happy and to remind you that you are beautiful the way God made you. i tell my jamaican jewel that all the time and i always mean it as i do with all my female family n friends. you are no exception.
So…after “weaving” thru life for a month, you learnt to simply.. “do you!”….
Short, long, you’re still pretty fly Chel.
U look good any way U decide to wear it, so ah nuh nutten! Re not staying all-natural, a friend of mine says he was talking to a stripper in Miami about her breast implants one day. He called them fake breasts and she corrected him. “They are real breasts, papi, they just aren’t natural!”. She gave him a feel and he said they felt good still, so ah nuh nutten. In this day and age, wear the fake stuff if U want! It is yours, you bought it. Do what makes you feel good.