Are you worth it?
First off let me start by saying I am not creating an excuse for trifling men out there, however, I myself have been guilty of generalizing men. I guess what I’m trying to say is that some men are born assholes and some are made that way. I want to focus on the women who push and push and push a man.
I know by now the faces of my female readers are all scrunched up, “What the hell does she mean women who made them that way?!”. Well let’s think about it, as women we have a tendency to expect more than we are willing to give. Do not get me wrong I am BIG on chivalry and stand a firm believer that men are to show and work for the pokey. However, it seems to be a growing trend that females are taking advantage of this and in turn men have become jaded.
There is nothing wrong with expecting a man to open your car door, pay for a dinner he asked you to, treat you like a princess but let’s be fair a lot of you are not Cinderella; as a matter of fact, some of you are the Ugly Step-Sisters inside and out. We all have that one friend who wants a man pay her bills, take her here and there and everywhere and wants so much she constantly sounds like an ambulance. She can have male friends but vice versa is not allowed and this is all his job. From time to time she might flirt but “that’s nothing; I’m not cheating”. When you check it out home girl does not work or barely makes minimum and isn’t all that educated. BLANK STARE. Let’s turn the tables. How many of my sisters will/ would/ have hit the town with an unemployed, barely-educated brother? *crickets* I thought so.
Now hold up! I’m not telling anyone to do that. I sure as hell don’t plan to but I want you to look at how men can become jaded. Here is a female that he likes and although she might not be on the same level he’s decided to give her a chance only for her to treat him like shit. So before you go cursing out men “Niggas aint shit”, “He’s trifling” Look at yourself and answer this:
1] Do you have a job?
2] Are you in name brand all the time?
3] Are you college educated; meaning did you actually finish?
4] Do you own your own company?
5] Do YOU drive a bentley?
6] Can you pop bottles in a club?
In the words of one of my male friends: " A woman better can offer me more than pum pum because at the end of the day that's a dime a dozen. What else you have to offer?"
So If the pokey is all you can offer girl sit back and ask yourself… Are you worth it?
P.S. I talk like this cause I can back it up 😉
Faith and Love,
Mamachel
Adventures of Mamachel 
Another question to ask is: are you financially responsible and stable?
You basically hit the nail on the head as to how men in general see women and to how much BS we will take.
You will make for a very good wife, whoever that person is.
This is a great article, and I totally agree. Plus I cracked up at the ambulance part.. lol. A lot of women need to read this; can’t expect equal treatment if you’re not willing to do same.
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Couldn’t agree with you more Chel.
Sell Off!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. Mi love it gone to bed. Women expect men to bring so much to the table and they in turn aint bring shit.
I just had this conversation on Friday. We were discussing the question, “are you a catch” and I mean I am great but I have lots to work on. So the next time we as women turn down some dude for not being good enough, ask yourself, are you? And if you are, more power to you, move on to the next one.
Nuff respect my girl…ah nuff girl corn get mash. Mi nuh stop here dem talk bout “one for the bills and one for the “trills”. Half of them cyaan even hold a conversation…but put dem pon dem knees and that is their profession. Suh in fact they have a profession/skill but are they worth it? And to all the men that support this kind of lifestyle – get some balls…you’re nothing more than a pussillanimous lackey!!! Nuff said
I really enjoyed this one. You were very objective here which can be very difficult when talking about the opposite sex. I echo these sentiments all the time, but the bottom line is that men also need stop crying about these women that “nuh ‘av nuttin bout dem” and stop giving into the physical so quickly and easily. I know from experience how tough that can be, but when we men respect ourselves first…the right woman will be totally willing to be vulnerable for you no matter how independent/strong/beautiful/empowered she is. It’s time for women to see good men stand up and stand out. We need to impress our women again so that it becomes even more egregious when the fast/loose ones want to step to men incorrectly.
True talk! Love this one!
Swaggeriffic mind
first time reader, but this hits home, and your on point. i have asked so many women, what they have to bring to the table, …..nothing, not even a business plan, best get to steppin!!
what alot of them havent realised is that sex is easy to get, and as much as she’s hot, women out there that make her look like she not trying